When others have emotionally hurt you, it’s easy to say, “They can’t treat me this way! I’ll make them pay!”
But somehow, these other people never seem to suffer very much. In your efforts to “show them,” you’re the one who overeats, gains weight, or feels depressed. [Read more…]
With almost everything in life, you hold a mental picture of how things should be.
For example, you expect that a restaurant will have clean tables, attentive wait staff, and good food. [Read more…]
Do you sometimes give in and eat because you feel deprived?
But stop and think about the whole concept of deprivation. Like it or not, to successfully manage your weight, you have to set boundaries around your eating. [Read more…]
When Jill ate five pieces of pizza at the mall one night, she assumed it was because she was overly tired from shopping.
But as she looked at the events and emotions from earlier in the day, it was obvious that fatigue wasn’t the only problem. [Read more…]
It always starts with just one little thing.
Maybe your child spilled milk or your washing machine quit working.
When you walked into the kitchen, you were attacked by the plate of leftover brownies so you ate several of them. [Read more…]
I am posting my answers to the 3 questions at the end of each lesson. Click on the links to read each day’s comments.
Whenever you struggle with your eating or with gaining weight, you might be tempted to describe yourself with words such as fat, lazy, failure, or screw-up. [Read more…]
You’re tired of salads and you’re bored with grilled chicken breast.
When you’ve been on a diet for a while, you may start longing for a little more variety and fun in your plan. [Read more…]
Do you ever try to motivate yourself by being critical or by using negative self-talk?
Unfortunately, punishing yourself doesn’t usually cause you to change your behavior. [Read more…]
Another way to build emotional safety is to create habits or rituals that help you feel more settled.
Picture drinking a cup of tea next to the fireplace or by a favorite window.