20-year plan for managing your weight

Whether you’re just starting a new diet, or you’ve reached your goal, you still have to be clear about your long-term success plan.

But maintaining your weight doesn’t have to be an overwhelming project. Instead, it just involves having a few action steps that you follow every single day, for weeks and eventually years.

Just like brushing your teeth or taking a shower every day, you can define your daily approach to managing your weight. Making a 20-year plan helps you determine your exact method for sticking with your goals during the years ahead.

How I will live forever

Think about your goals for today as well as for the coming week. What actions do you plan to take during that time period?

Do you intend to follow a specific eating plan or diet program?  Will you be exercising? If so, what will you do and how much? What types of things will you do for self-care?

Now, mentally, fast forward to how you plan to live during the next year. What about the next five years, and even 20 years?

Which of your current actions do you want to keep in your weight-management program forever? With those ideas in mind, get ready to make a long-term plan!

20-Year Plan for Living Healthy

At the top of a piece of paper, write the words, “My 20-Year Plan for Living Healthy.” (Or you can use the Diet Coach Cafe worksheet.)

Then dream big about what it will take to maintain your weight and your healthy lifestyle long-term. Following the directions with each of the next sections, develop a blueprint for how you’ll live for the next 20 years.

What I can do forever

In this section, plan a variety of actions you can do the rest of your life. Don’t be too restrictive such as saying you’ll follow a 1200-calorie eating plan.

You aren’t likely to track your calories every single day in the years ahead. Instead, plan realistic goals like eating low-fat, monitoring portion amounts, limiting alcohol, or exercising at least three times a week. Make a list of seven items you plan to do for the next 20 years.

Favorite foods

Choose three of your ultimate favorite foods. Then using an approach like “smaller amounts, less often,” determine how you can enjoy these foods without damaging your goals.

Decide how often you’d like to eat your favorites, then plan them into your program, not out of it.

Exercise

Set exercise goals that are reasonable but strong enough to challenge yourself. Be specific about your action plans as well as how you’ll stick with them.

Barriers

Identify potential high-risk areas that might keep you from maintaining your success. Think about current issues as well as past ones that could get in your way. Add a few thoughts on how you’ll cope with these problems so they don’t sabotage your efforts.

Crisis plan

What will you do if you begin to regain weight? Make a contingency plan for taking immediate action if you get into trouble with your goals.

Determine a “red flag” weight on the scale or a favorite pair of jeans that will trigger a mental alarm and set your crisis plan into motion.

Sample 20-Year Plan

Cindy had lost 75 pounds and was now starting a maintenance plan. She was worried that she’d gain the weight back as she’d done so many times in the past. Writing her 20-year plan helped her feel more prepared and confident about how she could maintain her success. Here is her 20-year plan.

What I can do forever:

  1. Eat low fat, limit to forty grams of fat a day or less
  2. Listen to my body’s signals for hunger and fullness
  3. Monitor portion sizes, keep them “reasonable”
  4. Eat my favorite foods using the principle of “smaller amounts, less often”
  5. Eat dessert only if it’s “special” or unusual
  6. Push myself to eat four to five servings of fruits and vegetables a day
  7. Keep learning new “tricks” and approaches that work for me

My three favorite foods: My plan for managing them

  1. Cookies, especially chocolate chip ones: Plan that I can have two cookies a week
  2. Lasagna—have it once a month: Watch for the point of “fullness”
  3. Cheesecake—once every two months: Savor it and appreciate the flavor

My exercise plans:

  1. Walk four to five times a week
  2. Do toning and strength-training exercises every other day
  3. Use a wall chart to record my progress as well as celebrate my success

Barriers and life issues that I will work on, including my plan for improvement:

  1. Stress at work—take breaks often, keep my exercise plan strong
  2. Emotional eating—review materials I’ve learned, add new coping skills
  3. Not exercising—keep records, build in non-food rewards such as music CD’s or a new book

Immediate plan if I begin gaining weight:

  1. Keep a food record. Count fat grams and decrease totals for the day to 40 or less
  2. Exercise more often, up to five or six days a week
  3. Evaluate the emotional issues affecting my eating patterns

Why seeing food makes you want to eat

You’ve been through it many times. Everything was fine until you saw the doughnuts or smelled the popcorn.

Food cues or “triggers” include all those little signals and thoughts that tell you to eat something when you weren’t planning on it.

Many triggers such as the sight, smell or even the taste of food are easy to recognize. But even images of food such as billboards or TV ads can crumble your resolve.

One minute you weren’t even thinking about eating, the next, you can’t stop thinking about it.

Food triggers

You may have conditioned yourself to seek food every time specific things happen. For example, do you automatically head for the refrigerator during TV commercials?

What about after getting a telephone call from your mother? Perhaps you catch sight of a vending machine and start reaching into your pocket for change.

Some triggers, such as those prompted by certain emotions, are very subtle. You might not even realize you are feeling depressed or lonely until you start searching for something to eat.

Triggers can also include situations, people or habits you have associated with food and eating in the past. Think of all the places or events where you might overeat, such as parties, cooking, family reunions, or friendships that revolve around food settings.

Sight of food

Anything that puts tempting food into your line of vision can become a food trigger. When you open the refrigerator door to get a can of soda, you glimpse a tasty leftover.

You weren’t wanting anything to eat until you actually saw the food, then you suddenly realize, “Wow. That looks so good!”  Even after you shut the refrigerator door, you’re in trouble because you can’t get the food out of your mind.

Smell of food

At theaters, the snack bars always seem to have a batch of popcorn in process as you arrive for the movie. Theater personnel know that many people can’t resist the aroma of fresh popcorn.

The cinnamon roll bakeries in malls use the same principle. By intermittently putting another pan of rolls in the oven, they almost guarantee you will be lured by the smell of fresh baking.

Taste and texture

When you take second helpings of food at the dinner table, you typically aren’t doing it out of hunger. You wanted to repeat the experience of having the taste or the texture in your mouth.

Taste triggers are what causes us to keep reaching for another cookie or a few more malted milk balls.

People

Often the people around us become a trigger to unplanned eating. Lots of times we’ll match what others are doing such as saying, “If you’re going to order a hamburger and fries, I will too.”

Certain groups of people may have established a routine with always eating pizza or going to a particular restaurant. “It’s simply what we do when we’re together.” These people and events become triggers for you to continue following the same food patterns.

Multiple triggers

At the grocery store, suppose you notice a bag of chocolate candy kisses. You mentally flash back to childhood and recall the fun of pulling the tiny strip of paper that opened the foil, exposing the sweet dark chocolate.

Without realizing it, you add a bag of these candies to your shopping basket. In this case, buying candy kisses may have been triggered not only the sight of food but also by nostalgia, food memories, lonely feelings or the need for nurturing, stress, desire to please and family ties.

How to manage triggers

In your efforts to manage your weight, you need a lot of tricks to stop you from exclaiming, “Why did I eat that?” after it’s too late.

Unexpected food cues are often responsible for the times you slip off your diet plan and eat. To be able to resist these food prompts, you have to recognize and respond to them beforeyou’ve already eaten.

When you do give in to a food trigger, practice looking backward at what was happening right before you started eating.

You might also determine whether you are more likely to be tripped up by external triggers such as the sight of food or internal ones that involve emotional needs.

Once you’ve identified your high-risk areas, determine that you won’t put yourself in situations that involve them.

Don’t tempt yourself in the first place, rather than fight to sustain your willpower. Practice saying NO to your friends, family or co-workers who push you to eat.

Susan described how she learned to manage her peanut butter cravings. “I never buy it any more. I’ve learned to not even bring peanut butter into my house because I keep dipping into it and in three days I finish off the whole jar.”

Here are three simple ways to manage food triggers instead of giving in to them.

1. Avoid them

Whenever you can, avoid triggers by putting distance between you and your high-risk foods. Don’t stock items such as chips, cookies or candy in your home or work setting.

Question the purpose of some of your food items. Do you really need to keep a candy jar on your desk? Is it just a subtle way to get people to like you? If so, look for other ways to build your connections, such as handing out free flowers once a week or sharing books you enjoy.

2. Flee when necessary

Recognize when you are weak and about to give in. Then leave the setting. Take a walk, go home, leave the room, even go to bed if necessary.

3. Brush your teeth

Anytime a food taste gets you started, you risk being triggered to eat more. But you can instantly stop the taste trigger by the simple act of brushing your teeth.

This draws a line in your mouth, decreasing the risk you will put the taste back in.

If you don’t have the option to brush your teeth, eat something with a distinct opposite taste of what you are hooded on.

Try sucking on a lemon wedge or eating a dill pickle to block a sweet or salty taste. Reach for a stick of gum or a strong mint flavored candy.

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Having a social life when you’re dieting

Suzanne was excited and motivated! This time, she was determined to stick with her weight-loss plan all the way to her goal.

It was a perfect week. When her work friends hosted a Friday night dinner party, she brought her own food, making it easy to stay on her plan.

The party begins

Saturday was a little more challenging. Her friends started with a late afternoon movie (with popcorn) then headed for a boisterous dinner at a local grill known for appetizers and steak fries.

Suzanne tried hard, but cheered on by a couple of drinks and the attention of a cute single guy, she reached for the nachos and joined the party.

On Monday, she was back on track—until the promotion lunch on Tuesday, the birthday cake on Wednesday and girls’ night out on Thursday.

When she stepped on the scale on Saturday morning, she was horrified to see that she hadn’t lost a pound. But she also knew exactly why.

Can I still have a social life?

The fact that you’re on a diet doesn’t prevent the rest of the world from having parties or eating dessert. And unless you stay at home and never leave your bedroom, you’ll still be invited to wine tastings, work parties and family dinners.

When you aren’t clear about the boundaries for your diet or weight-loss plan, it’s too easy to not have any. And that becomes a set up for saying, “I don’t care anymore—I just want to have fun.”

Instead of sacrificing your diet with every social event, you need to come up with a strategy for combining these two areas of your life.

Weight-Loss Plan A

Begin by spelling out exactly what you will do on your ideal program. For example, write down a food plan based the number of points, calories or fat grams you’re aiming for most of the time.

You might even jot down your exercise goals such as a daily twenty-minute walk. All of this is your Weight-Loss Plan A

Weight-Loss Plan B

Now study what’s on your calendar over the next few weeks and note the events that revolve around food.

Do you have an important party or a business trip coming up soon? What about your child’s recital, the monthly book club or poker night?

Instead of “hoping for the best” when you head out the door, create a strategy for each one of these activities. This contingency approach becomes your Weight-Loss Plan B.

Do either Plan A or Plan B

Set a goal that most of the time, you’ll follow Plan A, sticking tightly to your program and moving toward your goals. When your diet feels too rigid for a particular social event or situation, move to Plan B.

For example, to use Plan A at a party, you might arrive late, go home early and swap your usual beverage for a diet drink or club soda.

If necessary, you can switch to Plan B, where you allocate a few more points or calories or maybe choose to eat half a piece of birthday cake. You can also use this approach to handle your favorite restaurants or even specific meals.

There is no Plan C!

Here’s the secret to having a great social life at the same time you’re managing your weight.

When you’re tempted to throw in the towel and eat whatever you feel like, remind yourself there are only two choices—Plan A or Plan B!

That means you don’t have the option of taking the weekend off or excusing yourself from your food plan when you go to an evening party.

Regardless of the temptation to ignore your diet, always try to stick with either Plan A or your contingency approach, Plan B.

Whether you’re starting a new diet or you’ve maintained your weight for a long time, you still need a plan to live by. So keep the odds in your favor by reminding yourself, there is no Plan C.

Wear a Healthy Day hat

Tanya was in a panic! Over the past year, she had lost nearly 100 pounds, and for the past few months, she had maintained her new weight just fine. But recently, she’d started overeating, and couldn’t seem to stop.

“My wedding is in two weeks!” she wailed. “At the rate I’m going, I won’t even fit into my dress. I feel awful physically, but even more, I’m scared that all the work I’ve done over the past year will be wasted. How do I get back in control?”

As we sat down over coffee, I started by reassuring Tanya that she was NOT going to gain all her weight back.

I was confident that she could stop her current pattern and get back to the healthy lifestyle she’d followed so carefully over the past months.

“First of all,” I began, “I want you to know that you are NORMAL. Often people will do great for a long time, the hit some major stress and suddenly feel like they’re losing it. Whether you’re facing a big event such as your wedding, your need to feel emotionally safe, nurtured and in control goes sky high.

Other stresses such as doing your taxes or applying for a new job can have the same effect. During times like this, what you need is some emergency intervention for your spirit.”

Get a Healthy Day Hat

Here’s what I suggested to Tanya. Pretend that you put on a Healthy Day Hat.

Every day, do at least 5 things that will help you label the day as being a “healthy one.”

1. The magic glass of water
Each morning, start the day by drinking a glass of water. (That’s one down already.) This immediately demonstrates that it’s a healthy day.

2. One healthy meal
Eat a specific breakfast that you can count on as being healthy. (eggs and toast, oatmeal and fruit, etc.) After you’ve eaten ONE healthy meal, you’re more likely make good choices for the other meals in your day.

3. Do a little bit of exercise
Even a short walk or a few minutes on a treadmill will work. I like the idea of pushing yourself to do 10 minutes. Then you can either stay with it and keep going, or quit for the day. Either way, you’ll feel like a success.

4. Eliminate the food fix
Every time you head for the refrigerator or cupboard, but know you aren’t hungry, immediately STOP and tell yourself, “It’s not in here!”

Remind yourself that what you really need (nurtured, calmed, etc.) is NOT going to be fixed with food. Sure, it’s kind of soothing, but in the long run, you’ll just be upset and feel worse.

5. Instant nurturing
Make a short list of things that will calm or nurture you, such as sitting down with a cup of tea or a diet soda and forcing yourself to slow down a bit. Or take a 5-minute walk a couple of times a day.

By doing these 5 things, you’ll hang the “healthy day” sign over your head, and it will inspire you to stay with your diet or maintenance program successfully the rest of the day.

If it helps, actually wear a hat of some kind to remind yourself of your healthy day. This photo at the beginning of this post was taken at a restaurant in Colorado where they made each person a hat with their name on it.

I love this hat, and it makes me feel happy to look at the photo. I don’t own the hat any more, but today, I’m pretending I’m wearing it to remind myself of my healthy day.

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Pretend that you put on a “Healthy Day Hat.” Every day, do at least 5 things that will help you label the day as being a “healthy one.” When you hang the healthy day sign over your head, it will inspire you to stay with your diet or maintenance program successfully the rest of the day. … keep reading


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Recovering from an emotional cold

A few years ago, I got a terrible cold. It started when I fell off the sidewalk. I didn’t notice that I was close to the edge, my weak ankle twisted, and I slammed my knee down hard on the cement.

“You’re very lucky,” the doctor said. “No torn ligaments or broken bones. Just a big bruise.”

I was grateful it wasn’t a serious injury. But besides the fact that it hurt a lot, that bruise made me feel old and grumpy. It also pushed me over the fragile edge of my mental stamina and into an emotional slump. I knew that it wasn’t a deep depression, certainly not the kind that requires therapy or drugs. It was just an “emotional cold.”

When this happens to me, I want to eat every-thing. I especially want to eat carrot cake, ice cream and huge chocolate-chip cookies. Of course, these foods only treat the symptoms, not the problem. An hour later, my emotional cold is still there, dragging me down more than ever.

How it gets started

An emotional cold can be brought on by any number of stressful things. Sometimes it’s a struggling relationship, a job layoff, or just being overwhelmed or sick of life at the moment. In some cases, unusual work demands or an ill parent can wear us out.

Emotional challenges tend to be cumulative, just like physical problems. In my case, I’d been through many weeks of subtle stress related to my writing, website development and work concerns.

I’d been struggling with feeling a little moody, discouraged and slightly depressed. And I think all of these things simply kept adding up until I (literally) lost my balance.

Treating an emotional cold

From my own experiences as well as my years of weight-loss counseling, here are some things I’ve learned about healing from an emotional cold.

1. It’s a real cold

Recognize and acknowledge it when you get an emotional cold. Give up the fake happy face and admit that you’re feeling down. When you get an emotional cold, you can’t just talk yourself out of it, ignore it or shake it off. You may have to snuggle under an emotional blanket for a few days, and give yourself time to get better.

2. It’s not your fault

Even if you realize it’s related to stress or not taking time for yourself, don’t blame yourself for getting an emotional cold. They just show up, often as a way to remind us that it’s time to slow down and take better care of ourselves.

And if you eat sweets or junk food in your efforts to cope with your cold, don’t conclude that you’re weak or a failure. You probably just needed some relief from the symptoms while you waited for life to heal you.

3. Rest until you feel better

Do lots of nurturing and self-care while you allow yourself time to recover. If possible, eliminate some of your stress or look for ways to decrease the demands in your life. Take some emotional time off. Call in sick (because you have a “bad cold”) or ask your family to help out more for a few days because of your “illness.”

Once you’ve recovered and you’re feeling better, renew your determination for healthy eating and exercise. Pull out your list of non-food ways to nurture and reward yourself. Then lift the burden off your shoulders, stand up tall, and move back to the center of your healthy road.

Everyone gets an emotional cold now and then. If you learn to recognize the symptoms, then start treating it right away, you’ll perk back up and recover a lot faster. Eventually, you may even learn how to prevent them and avoid experiencing the “last straw” such as falling off a sidewalk.

One dent doesn’t ruin the whole car


Sherry slumped into the chair in my office. “What an awful week,” she moaned. “I totally blew it! I started out determined that I would stay on my diet, do my exercise and manage my stress.

But every single day, things at work built up and got to me. By the time I got home, I’d be upset and worn down from all the stress.

Before I knew it, I’d have a glass of wine in one hand and a bag of tortilla chips in the other. Once I’d blown it anyway, I’d figure I might as well wait and start my diet over tomorrow. So I’d eat whatever I wanted that night. Of course, none of it was on my diet plan.”

Caught in the cycle

Sherry continued, “I’m so discouraged. I’ve been trying so hard to lose weight. But instead of making progress, I’ve gained three pounds.

Please help me figure out how to get a handle on this. Otherwise, I’ll never lose any weight and by next year, I’ll be bigger than ever.”

I blew it!

As Sherry and I talked, she confessed that she often slips into saying “I blew it.” For example, last Friday night, Sherry and her friend met at her favorite Mexican cafe.

She said, “I just can’t seem to go there without having a margarita. Of course, once I finished it (as well as a bowl of chips and salsa) I didn’t care about my diet anymore. I figured that I’d already blown it and I’d have to start my diet over the next day anyway, so I might as well eat the entire meal.

What a shame! Instead of labeling an eating slip up as a minor event, Sherry allowed it to pull her off course entirely.

Whenever you say, “I blew it,” your brain hears, “That means I’m off my diet, so I might as well go ahead and eat more.”

Then you decide that since your diet is a lost cause anyway that it makes sense to give up entirely and start over the next day.

Here’s how Sherry described her punishing routine with food. “It’s as if I backed my car into a post. But instead of assessing the damage and driving away, I decide one dent isn’t enough. So to punish myself for my first mistake, I slam my car backward into the post again and again.”

Why one dent doesn’t ruin the car

Most of you wouldn’t punish yourself for the first dent by making the car worse. So don’t do this with food either. Instead, when you slip up on your diet plan tell yourself, “OK, I did that. It’s over. Now I can go back to taking care of myself.”

Stop saying “I blew it!”

Phrases such as “I blew it’ emphasize feelings of discouragement and failure. Throw these out these old dieting lines and start using a kinder, more gentle voice when you talk to yourself.

Starting now, resolve that you’ll never say “I blew it” again in regard to your eating or your weight loss efforts.

Call it a PAUSE

Instead of treating an eating episode as a crisis, learn to view it as a minor event. A great way to do this is to refer to your eating problem as a “pause.” Think of it as a brief rest in your day. Say to yourself, “I had a little pausein my program. Now I’ll get back up and follow my plan again.”

Move forward, not backward

Any time you have a diet slip-up, don’t wait until the next day to take action. Simply ask yourself, “What’s next? What’s a healthy step I can take right now?”

Then quickly do something to overcome the minor dent in your program. Take a walk, eat a piece of fruit, or do something else that affirms you are following a healthy pattern.

And promise yourself that you’ll never again use the words, “I blew it” to describe a minor slip up on your diet.

Finding back self-esteem

“It was an awful week!” Shelly told her weight-loss counselor. “It started going bad when I found out that I didn’t get the new position I’d applied for at work.”

She reached for a tissue to wipe her eyes, then continued, “I thought I’d done everything right, but somehow it wasn’t enough. When my boss told me the news, my confidence hit rock bottom.”

Shelly sighed. “That afternoon, I went home and started eating and I don’t think I’ve stopped since! Last night, my boyfriend and I had a terrible fight, and I know it was because I was so down on myself. My weight is totally out of control, my self-esteem is shot and I feel like a failure in everything!”

Who stole your self esteem?

It’s funny how easy it is to let events or situations ruin your confidence. Even when you’ve worked hard on building your self-esteem, a simple negative comment can destroy your inner spirit and send you running toward the refrigerator.

And it works, because food makes us feel good! When a grueling experience devastates your confidence and self-trust, food soothes the pain. It gives you the courage to face the world again.

Of course, at the same time, overeating hurts your self-esteem by making you feel disgusted and frustrated. Next thing you know, you grab more food to appease these negative feelings.

Regardless of your current life situation, you can still find your inner spirit and rebuild your self-esteem. And it won’t take years to accomplish. By making a few simple changes in your self-talk and your internal beliefs, you can improve your self-esteem almost immediately.

See your potential

Imagine you’re walking through a forest when you spot a piece of wood nearly hidden in a pile of leaves. As you study the layers of moss and caked-on dirt, you can’t see any beauty in this scrap of wood and you question whether it has any value.

But something compels you to pick it up and carry it home. In your workshop, you carefully scrape off the dirt, then begin sanding and polishing your wood. To your astonishment, you uncover a deep grain filled with rich, beautiful colors.

As you continue restoring the wood, you start planning how you could use it for some special purpose. Your excitement builds as you envision creating a unique picture frame or a graceful table leg. There’s no doubt in your mind that this piece
of wood has great value.

YOU are this piece of wood. Even when painful layers such as your weight or other burdens cover your beauty, the real you never leaves.

Your value as a person doesn’t change because of what you look like or what happens to you. Beneath your discouragement and low self-esteem, you are still you, as strong and vibrant as ever.

Hanging on to your confidence

If you ever watch the TV show Dancing With the Stars you certainly recognize confidence, self-esteem and inner strength. The contestants never win by focusing on their faults. Instead, they do lots of self-talk about their dancing skills and how great they look. Then they go out and dance like maniacs with total confidence and poise.

To help yourself focus on success, take the “dancing contestant” approach to managing your weight. Build an image of being successful and tell yourself you are totally capable of winning the weight-loss contest. Then dance your way through each day with a positive, confident attitude.

Think back to the earlier example of the piece of wood. You may have to scrape off a few old beliefs and habits, but you can build self-esteem that remains strong, no matter what happens in your life.

Soon, your renewed self-image will add power to your efforts for managing your weight.

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Article: Finding Back Self-Esteem

“It was an awful week!” Shelly told her weight-loss counselor. “It started going bad when I found out that I didn’t get the new position I’d applied for at work.”

She reached for a tissue, then continued, “I thought I’d done everything right, but somehow it wasn’t enough. When my boss told me the news, my confidence hit rock bottom.”…. keep reading


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Here’s how Sherry described her punishing routine with food. “It’s as if I backed my car into a post. But instead of assessing the damage and driving away, I decide one dent isn’t enough. So to punish myself for my first mistake, I slam my car backward into the post again and again.” …. keep reading

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